Catching up

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Re: Catching up

Post by TheHeadlessHorseman » Tue Dec 09, 2025 1:22 am

I think the names on a family tree mean a lot more when people know something about the ones who bore those names.
You're absolutely right about that.

The way that I've been physically documenting my family history, both on paper and digitally, is by having notations beside each name that corresponds to a file on that specific person that contains everything that I know about them, very much the same way that the information is organized in my head. That way, anybody that comes after me will be able to read up on their relatives as if they are reading a small biography about them.


As promised, some very BIG news ...

I recently got a early Christmas present for my family, so far I've only told my wife and her jaw almost hit the floor when she heard it. Honestly, I'm still deciding if I even want to tell the rest of the family. I've mentioned before how I own undeveloped land in various States, and how selling some of that land awhile back financed our vacation this summer. Well, I recently sold some of the land that I owned in Georgia, and I'm still in disbelief at how much I got for it.

This deal has been in the works for a couple of years, my agent had contacted me to let me know that a company was interested in purchasing the land from me, it was a generous offer, and far more than I paid 25 years ago, but I declined the offer. A few months later the same company put in another offer that was significantly higher, but I still declined because I wasn't in any rush to sell it. So, about a year goes by without any offers and then a few months ago my agent calls me and tells me that he has very lucrative offers from 2 companies interested in the land, and he suggested that I let the companies bid against each other to drive up the price.

I set up a online meeting with both companies and told them that the best offer gets it. Apparently, in the years since I acquired the land the surrounding area had been developed significantly, and I was the only person that hadn't sold their land yet, and the developers were scrambling to get their hands on it. Of course, I wasn't aware of this because I don't stay up to date with the current progress of the area after I purchased the land.

So, the companies started bidding against each other and steadily driving up the price, then they both started throwing insane offers at us, and I thought that they couldn't possibly go any higher after that, but I decided to hold out. The companies were getting competitive and soon one of them threw in a staggering offer that I couldn't refuse, so they got it. When I saw the final offer I thought it was a joke, and there was no way that the company would actually follow through with it, as I expected them to have buyer's remorse or come up with another reason to back out, but we just finalized it last week. I didn't want to say anything until the funds cleared, and it just did.

Yeah, there are fees along the way, and I'm going to be taxed like Hell on it, but I'm still going to walk away with a unbelievably gorgeous profit. I won't reveal the final price that I got for it, but I will say that it was a astronomical return on my original investment, as I sold the land for over 75x what I paid for it 25 years ago, and I can tell you right now that even with what College or University will cost 10 years from now, my kids won't ever have to worry about it.

I still have more undeveloped land that I'm going to hang on to for now, I've had offers on some of it, but nothing as high as this was, so I'll wait until there's more demand for it. There is one piece of land in Montana that I don't know if I'll ever sell, it's only a few acres, but it's absolutely beautiful. I was only 20 when I bought the land and at the time I always thought that I would build a house there for my family, and maybe a farm or ranch or something, and retire there. But we know how things went, and now my kids have their roots here, so I doubt that I'll ever get to build that dream house there. Of course, maybe one day somebody in my family might do something with it.

Now, to get back to this for a moment ...
For example, you've said he was very successful professionally, and you appear to be as well. ... I bet you also inherited some of his talents and strengths.
It's hard to say, that is, that we as human beings naturally inherit genetic and behavioral traits from both our parents, as well as their relatives from previous generations. So it's only natural that their intellectual strengths would be passed on to their offspring as well. Of course, some people are just born with a higher level of intelligence than other people, regardless of how their parents measure up intellectually.

My father's side of the family was always good with business, and as far as I know, they have always been successful. My mother's side was mostly hard working farmers that had a few small businesses and they got by, but they weren't ever as successful as they could have been, and that was because of a few bad decisions along the way.

I think that my success can be attributed to multiple factors. I work hard and always push myself past my limits, when everybody else was sitting at home getting everything handed to them by their parents, I was busting my a** to get what I want. When everybody is sleeping I'm awake already planning next week in advance. I'm also very good with math, and I've been good at anticipating the potential outcome of my investments, so far I have a 98% accuracy, and I know this because I'm meticulous with my record keeping, both in my books and in my head. My unyielding capacity for memory definitely plays a part, being able to remember facts and figures gives me a advantage over other people, as I can instantly pull up information that can be used in any area of business.

As far as learning certain business tactics from my father, I know that I did, as I always used to hear little tricks he would use, like how he would charge slightly above cost for his gas, his competitors wouldn't have ever reduced their profit margin that low, but my father knew that by having the cheapest price for his customers, that he would move a larger volume of product with a faster turn around and maximize his profits, and his constant replenishing of his inventory repeatedly resulted in higher profits faster. Just rinse and repeat. I've used the same tactic myself here at the restaurant, and I told my wife to do the same thing at her bakery when another pastry shop opened down the street to compete with her. By the way, that pastry shop is no longer in business. So, yes, I've used some of the tactics that I learned from my father in business.

I recall one day specifically when my father and his brother were sitting on the patio in the backyard, and they were talking about the land they already owned, and where they should invest next, and they were discussing strategy and tips for success. I was 8 at the time, and I guess they thought that I wasn't paying attention, but I was. Who knows? Maybe that's where I got the idea to invest in land and properties, or maybe the idea was planted in my head far earlier than that ...

What does Lucy want for Christmas? :lol:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HPKF8UvO54

So, I'm sitting here deciding if I want to tell the rest of the family about my recent success, not that it would go to their head, but I don't think that I should tell them yet. I'll just get each of them something great for Christmas. :D

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Re: Catching up

Post by Murfreesboro » Tue Dec 09, 2025 4:50 pm

Congratulations on your super land deal! I don't think I would talk about it with anyone. They say it's a mistake for lottery winners to publicize their good fortune. There are always so many people out there who need money and can tell distressing stories. I know some of them are con artists, but some of them are legitimately in need. The trouble is, no one person, no matter how wealthy, can cure all the evils in the world.

I think, when you get ready to donate to a charity, you'll need to be very strict with yourself about which ones you'll support and for how much. You can't do everything for everyone, no matter how much you might wish to.

By all means, give those on your gift list nice gifts, if that's your impulse. Just don't advertise how much you have or where it came from.

I know you weren't talking about charitable donations, but that seems to be the main thing that comes up when people find out someone has "struck it rich." So many are always trying to figure out how they can get in on that good fortune.

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Re: Catching up

Post by Andybev01 » Tue Dec 09, 2025 10:41 pm

Oh jeez. HH; this unpacked an odd memory:

"as he always used to have his shotgun ready in his pickup truck"

Most of the guys in my high school lived beyond the city, limits on farms and along the river and almost all of them had a gun rack in the back window of their trucks, I'm sure you know the kind I'm talking about, and no one said anything about it when you would walk past their trucks in the student parking lot at school. Probably , because the male teachers had bigger trucks and better guns of their own.
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Post by Murfreesboro » Wed Dec 10, 2025 7:43 am

My husband taught at a school like that in Virginia. The first day of hunting season was an unofficial holiday. The school was still in session, but nobody marked the hunters absent.

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Post by TheHeadlessHorseman » Thu Dec 11, 2025 8:21 am

Thanks Murf!

Believe me, I had no intention of telling anybody outside of my family, as it's none of their business. I mean, I can tell you guys because I'm just a product of your overactive imagination. :lol: But I was speaking about my immediate family. I know that as much as I'd like to tell my mother, I can't because I know that she will tell everybody that she knows. So, only my wife, myself, and Sam are going to know about it.

I did tell Sam last night because I know that I can trust her, and do you want to know what the first thing she said to me was? She asked me if that means we can buy Millie her own house now? I paused for a moment because I was confused by her question, so I asked her to clarify it for me. She heard my wife and I previously talking about how I knew that Millie wasn't getting enough emotional comfort and social interaction living with my aunt and uncle, but she misunderstood me, and she thought that Millie would be happy if she had her own place. I explained to her what I really meant, and told her that Millie can't live by herself because she needs people to be there for her, and that she is happy where she is.

It just goes to show you what a good heart Sam has, she could have asked me for anything, and I mean anything, new clothes, a new device, even a car, not that I would have given her a car at this age, but she could have asked, but instead she wanted to do something good for her family. I tell you, she is growing up to be a wonderful person, and I'm so proud of her. By the way, she didn't actually ask me for anything, she just promised that she wouldn't tell anybody.

As for donating to corporate charities, and I specify the word corporate, I haven't ever, or will ever donate to any corporate charities in my life. The operative word there being corporate, as in a corporation that has employees to pay, crooked executives at the top, ties to nefarious politicians, and a agenda. Like any other business, corporate charities have a overhead, and if you donate $1 to them, by the time it reaches the intended recipient, if it does, they only get about 10 cents of your donation.

You have heard me say before that I will always take care of the people in my inner circle, that includes my family and friends, my employees, and the people in my community. If you're going to be charitable, make sure that you help the people around you, and that they actually get that help, true charity comes from the heart, and we have to look out for each other. There's no middle man, you just help the people that really need it.

As a independent restaurant owner I've heard some horror stories about how corporate restaurants like McDonald's and KFC, and even places like Walmart and supermarkets that have a hot counter that sells hot ready to go food, have a policy that forces their employees to throw away any food that is leftover at the end of the day, they aren't allowed to give it away to customers, or take it home with them, they have to throw it away or they get fired.

I always tell my employees that if there is any food leftover at the end of the day that they can take it home with them, or give it to any customers that want it. There are also some less fortunate people in the area that know they can come in at the end of the day and get a meal from us. I won't ever waste food because I know what it's like to go to bed without dinner, and I know that most of those people appreciate it, especially some of the younger employees. People are already struggling with the current cost of living, and there's no reason to make it harder for them.

That's how the corporate business model is structured, if they can't sell it then they would rather throw it away than give it to people that need it. This absolutely sickens me, because there are so many families that struggle to feed themselves, but I'm sure that none of those corporate executives have ever starved a day in their life, and the large heartless corporations just view you as a consumer, or you don't exist to them.

There's a place where we get base ingredients in bulk for our businesses, we have been doing business with them for years, and there was a manager we knew very well that used to work there. It had been awhile since we saw him there and we thought that maybe he went to manage at a different location, but we ran into him one day and he told us that he had been fired, he said it was because a shipment had come in one day that had bugs in it, so he called corporate headquarters to tell them that he was going to throw it away. They told him to still put the product out for sale, but he refused because he knew it was wrong, so they fired him for it.

We always inspect every single product that we receive at the restaurant to make sure that it's good enough to serve to our customers. I've received shipments of rotten produce, or contaminated products from our suppliers before, and I throw it out because I won't ever feed that to my customers. Some of the suppliers send a replacement shipment, but some won't and I just have to write it off. Honestly, I could go on and on with other examples of corporate evil, but I won't.

Like I said, take care of the people you know, and do what you can for them. That's really the most that any of us can do in this life.

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Re: Catching up

Post by Murfreesboro » Thu Dec 11, 2025 11:33 am

Your philosophy reminds me a lot of Voltaire's at the end of Candide, 'Let everyone cultivate his own garden." It's not a selfish statement, but a recognition that if everybody were to do the best they could to care for their immediate circle, the entire world would be a better place.

It's disgusting how much food gets.wasted. I've always thought the big corporations ( and dining halls of colleges) did that because legally they were required to, or maybe they were scared of being sued if some of the leftovers went bad. When I worked at Mary Baldwin I knew a student who worked as a night janitor, and he told me he actually ate the garbage that the cafeteria threw out because it was perfectly good food and free to him. He was an interesting young man. Mary Baldwin at that time was a female-only school, but exceptions were made for employees and spouses of faculty, etc. They could take classes for free. This young man was very bright and got his college degree by working there.

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Post by TheHeadlessHorseman » Thu Dec 11, 2025 3:00 pm

The world was a very different place back then, maybe it's possible they were legitimately worried that the leftovers could make people sick, or maybe there was so much food that they didn't care if they threw it out, because your average person was well fed in those days. Most regular people aren't so arrogant about it today.

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